Models Chapter 10 Summary: How to Overcome Anxiety

You’re going to get rejected.

But it’s fine.

Good looking women get approached constantly.

They have learned to quickly sort through all the offers, and unfortunately, most men don’t pass their filters.

It’s not because they are bitches.

In fact, the majority of people hate rejecting others.

It’s because they know what they want, and with all the offers they receive, they don’t have time to go out with all the men that don’t fit their criteria.

Believe it or not, women want you to succeed. They want you to be the attractive and confident man that they can’t say no to.

But you must take action. Like it or not, that is the man’s role. It's always up to you to escalate. The man is expected to move things forward.

So the next time you see an attractive woman, go straight up to her and make your move. And remember, she wants you to succeed.

Fear and anxiety are normal.

But if you try to shut it out, it will only make those feelings stronger.

Instead, you need to first accept and embrace them, then channel them into positive behavior.

Anxiety isn’t always a bad thing. In fact, research shows that people perform better under a certain amount of anxiety, if they have the ability to do the thing they are anxious about.

It’s not the anxiety that is the issue, it’s the lack of confidence in your abilities that causes problems.

A lot of men think they don’t have the skillset to attract women, but they do.

If you can hold a conversation with a friend or family member, then that’s essentially the only skill you need.

Besides that, all you need to do is act.

To overcome anxieties, you need to take many small steps as opposed to one large one.

For example, if you’re not used to approaching women, then asking a stranger out on a date can be daunting.

So don’t do that.

Start with something much easier, such as just asking for the time. Just focus on this one thing. Don’t worry about what should be your next move. Just ask for the time, say thanks when she gives it to you, and walk away.

Once you are comfortable with that, follow it up by introducing yourself, and nothing more.

Continue to build up in this way until eventually, you will be able to walk up to a woman, tell her you think she is attractive, and ask her out on a date.

The bolder you are, and the bolder your actions are, the more vulnerability you display and the more polarizing you will be — which is exactly what you want.

However, when you take a bold action, such as asking a woman out on the street or trying to kiss a girl in a strange location, you need to acknowledge what you are doing is not normal.

If you don’t, then you will seem like a creep that doesn’t understand social norms.

For example, you could say something like, “Hi, I know this is kind of random, but I saw you and found you very attractive. Would you like to go for a coffee?”

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