Models Chapter 7 Summary: Demographics

The places you go to meet women have a big impact on the type of women you will meet.

In fact, it is the first layer to work on when it comes to improving your dating life.

So the question is, what type of women do you want to meet?

Your social class, your job, where you hang out, what your interests are…

All these things are factors in determining the type of women you will attract, because the places you go are the places women with similar demographics also go.

For example, famous people generally date other famous people. They live the same type of life and are usually in the same social circles.

When you date a woman with demographics that are very different, it causes friction, and friction prevents attraction from turning into intimacy.

This doesn’t mean you have to have all the same interests, but if you hate what she loves and vice versa, it is never going to work.

Take a few minutes now and ask yourself the following questions:

What traits do you value most in a woman?

What things are deal breakers for you?

Considering the top traits from the first question, where are you most likely to find these women?

What are your top personal interests?

What are the events or organizations you can go to in line with your interests?

What are some things you’ve always wanted to learn or do, and how could you get involved in them?

Sometimes you meet a woman and the two of you just ‘click.’ More often than not, this is because you share similar values and interests.

When you focus on putting yourself in situations where you will meet women of similar values and interests to you, you will naturally have greater success with women, both in the amount of women you date and the quality of the relationships.

First you must recognise your personal interests and strengths. Then you must build upon those interests and strengths to attract women in your preferred demographic.

If you’re not a very social person, then it is going to be hard to meet women. There just isn’t any way around that.

And even if you are social, your social activities may not align with those of women you want to meet.

The answer is to expand your fields of interests. Go out and try new things. Not only will you be learning new skills, but it will open you up to different types of women.

Most of the issues that men have around dating women can be solved by questioning their beliefs.

This is because your beliefs are, often subconsciously, projected through your behavior, and your behavior determines the type of women you will attract.

For example, if you believe women don’t enjoy sex, then you are likely to meet a bunch of prudes. But if you believe the opposite, then you’ll end up with lots of sensual and sexual women.

Change your beliefs and you will change your behavior and expectations. People tend to conform to what others expect of them.

Changing your beliefs starts with accepting that your current beliefs are incorrect.

Age, money, and looks matter!

But probably not as much as you think.

Studies have shown that the average 45-year-old male is still considered as physically attractive as the average 18-year-old male. This is because women judge attractiveness more on style, grooming, and presentation than actual physicality.

That means that you can drastically increase your physical attractiveness simply by getting a good haircut and wearing a suit.

Having money is considered successful (in the classic sense) and implies other positive traits also.

However, having money matters more depending on your age. The older you are, the more money you are expected to have.

Additionally, the less wealthy she is, the more important money will be to her.

The fact is that everyone values looks and success to some extent. You should aim to be as good-looking and successful as you can, more so for yourself. It just so happens that this will pay-off dividends for your dating life also.

The more money/look/success you have, the easier it will be. But a lack of any or all of these things can be made up for (to a certain extent) by displaying attractive behavior.

Humans value things that other people value. When you are seen as popular, you are more attractive. This is social proof.

You want to cultivate as much social proof within your demographic as you can.

One way to do that is to become an organizer. Don’t just come to the sports team dinner, organize it.

What you say is only a way to buy you enough time to show your identity.

If you are all talk and no action, your empty words will always backfire. That is why pretending to be something you are not, such as a ‘pick-up artist’ always fails in the long run.

Conversely, if you do the work to make yourself more attractive from the inside out, the type of person you are and the actions you take will ooze attractiveness.

Figure out what you are doing with your life, what your identity is, what kind of relationships you want, and what kind of women you want to attract.

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