The Message Game: Final Chapters and My Action Plan

To many people, The Message Game is more than just a book about how to get dates.

It is a way of life.

There is a whole community around this, similar, and interconnected with, the Pick Up Artist community. If you are so inclined, you can join the community Facebook group, aptly named “MessageGame.”

Even if you choose to live The Game as a way of life, it is important not to take it too seriously.

Have fun with it, and while you do, work towards your life goals.

Having and working towards building your ideal life, beyond just sleeping with a lot of women, is one of the most attractive traits and will help you in your game with girls.

Much of this book has been focused on getting from a match on a dating app to going on a date, but what happens when you meet people in real life, such as in a social gathering or at a bar?

The primary goal is still to get her contact details. Preferably either Facebook or her WhatsApp.

Tell her to get her phone out and then use it to send yourself a friend request.

Alternatively, put your name and number into her contacts and then send yourself a stupid message.

Doing things this way ensures the ball is in your court. At the very least, make sure you get her number, instead of you giving her yours. Swapping numbers is fine. You just don’t want to not have her number.

You don’t want to be put in the friend zone, but friends can always become more than friends.

It is better to come from a frame of you being best friends as opposed to a formal date. This means having no expectations. It takes the pressure off. Besides, two people interviewing each other is nowhere near as fun as playing around with your best friend.

Just keep in mind that your intention is to be physical. You must escalate or you will be put in the friend zone.

When you first match with a girl and have arranged to meet, there is no real reason to message each other in the days leading up to the date.

It is far better to save the “getting to know you” conversation for when you actually meet.

However, hours or a day before, send something relevant to check she is going to show up, without directly asking if the date is still on. Asking “What will you be wearing?” is a good way to do this.

A couple of hours before the date you should also send something to make it easy for her to find you. For example “Look for the guy in a green hoodie and a black cap sitting out front.

The Message Game teaches you the best practices for getting a date, but it doesn’t go beyond that.

The author does, however, give one big tip...

Hold her hand.

Holding her hand is the first step of escalation. It is innocent and physical at the same time. Also, you can do it in almost any circumstance. While walking, while sitting, or while dancing.

If she asks why you are doing it, just say you felt like it.

If she pulls her hand away, then she’s not ready yet. Build more comfort and try again later.

Like most books, there are really only a few big lessons to take away amongst all the stories. Here is my action plan:

• Improve my dating profile by getting better photos and simplifying the text.
• Have an abundance mindset.
• Only swipe right on people I find interesting and attractive, as opposed to swiping right on everyone.
• Use the adventurous opener and 3 questions.
• Get her WhatsApp and set a date.
• On the date, act like you would with a close friend, with zero expectations.
• Escalate physically, starting with holding her hand.

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