The Message Game Summary: Chapter 5

I don’t think it is any secret that girls have WAY more choice than men when it comes to the dating world.

Especially hot girls. Hot girls are bombarded with messages and matches every day.

With all the competition out there, the way to stand out is to accurately show who you are as a person, because nobody can be better at being you than you.

You need to know what you want, know who you are, and know how to express yourself in an authentic way.

Everything you do and the way you communicate reveals to her who you are and how you feel about yourself.

You need to change your paradigm. It’s not whether she will choose you. It is you who will choose her.

If all you do is swipe right on everybody, you’ll get punished by the algorithm, which means fewer matches, and the matches you do get will probably be low-quality.

Train the algorithm to give you high quality matches by only swiping right on profiles that have at least three clear photos without silly filters.

Tinder also has the superlike feature. If it is available to you, use it sparingly. For example, use it if you find her relatively attractive and if her bio or photo has something extremely relatable to you.

​​Do not superlike her if her profile says she is only in town temporarily.

And don’t forget, what you want is to meet her. Anything you say that isn’t moving you towards meeting in person is counter-productive.

Get a match, get her number, arrange to meet.

While these openers won’t work all the time, they are a lot better than what most other guys are saying.

The Adventurous Line: ‘Let’s skip all the bullshit. How adventurous are you?’

This is a no BS opener which engages your match and screens her at the same time.

You could also replace the word “adventurous” with “spontaneous.”

Another good opener is “The 3 Things Line,” where you ask her for 3 suggestions for things to do.

For example: “Tell me 3 things you wanna do on our first date.”

This engages her and gives you perfect date ideas. And if she suggests things you don’t enjoy, then you know to move on.

“The 3 Things Line” is also a good follow-up if she asks for clarification on the “How adventurous are you?” line.

Most women prefer the guy to take the lead. Suggest to her the place and time to meet.

A good place is somewhere convenient for you both to get to, and preferably close to your place.

Also, never tell her “let me know,” because chances are, she never will.

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