The Message Game Summary: Chapter 7 - Other People’s Messages

Everyone has a different messaging style.

And while there are some proven lines you can use to help you, such as the Spontaneous Line, it is important to convey your personality so that it is at least a little congruent with your personality when you meet.

In this chapter the author breaks down the pros and cons of messages from other people. This will not only give you insights for what to do and what not to do, but will also expose you to other messaging styles that you may feel are a better match for your personality.

Most objections can be overcome with comfort talk, to reassure her that the objection is not important

In one message the girl says “I’m up for anything, except sex.” The guy replies, “What about a hug?”

When the objection towards sex comes up you can either just ignore it and continue the conversation as normal or downplay it.

Another objection you might face when asking a girl to meet (instead of messaging back and forth) is that she wants to see if it is worth her time first, hence, more messaging.

You can reply with something to suggest that it may be worth the risk or that the whole point is to meet.

Sometimes she will say something that you are unsure how to respond to in order to move things forward.

Just ignore the message and continue the conversation. You can always use the word “Anyway” to pivot the conversation.

Something you say may not go down so well. If she writes a lot to defend herself, or to qualify herself, it shows she cares what you think. That is an indicator of interest.

When you suggest a date idea and she is open to it, that’s an indicator of interest.

If she brings up sexual talk, it’s obviously an indicator of interest.

When you get an indicator of interest, ask for her WhatsApp!

There are several examples of things gone wrong. Here are some lessons learned from them.

Don’t try to be funny or entertaining all the time.

Don’t be generic.

Don’t refer to yourself as “the funny guy” or “the handsome guy” or any other variation of this.

Don’t be needy.

Don't be overtly sexual right from the start, unless she starts it.

Don’t give up too easily. You may get a negative or no response. You can try again, but not so much that you seem needy.

Don’t give too many options. Ask for WhatsApp. If she doesn’t have it, ask for Facebook. If she doesn’t have that either, move onto the next thing. Don’t, however, ask for them all at once. Just like in marketing, giving people choices means they are more likely to do none of them.

Don’t be inconsistent. For example, when you are straight to the point about getting her number, don’t then fluff around on WhatsApp. Match, number, meet.

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